and im still in disbelief. i can't stop it. he will be two. oh my... breathe...
Showing posts with label yourself. Show all posts
Showing posts with label yourself. Show all posts
TWO TOMORROW...BREAKING THE SILENCE
little dude will be two. tomorrow.
and im still in disbelief. i can't stop it. he will be two. oh my... breathe...
and im still in disbelief. i can't stop it. he will be two. oh my... breathe...
INVESTING IN YOURSELF
Sometimes life hits you.
It hits hard and fast. You feel like your tossed and turned and then slammed into a brick wall only to be run over by a train.
Yes. Life is hard.
When these moments hit me,
I tend to get overwhelmed and irritable.
say things I don't mean.
Lately I've been trying to be more aware of how I respond.
to the things I have no control over.
because if I'm honest... The only thing I can control is how I react.
Most of the time when I ignore how I am feeling, things blow up.
I'm working on getting better at realizing when I'm stressed and need a time-out.
I used to think that made me weak.
that it showed I couldn't cope.
that i can't handle life.
But that's where I was wrong.
It takes strength to admit you need a time-out.
a break. it takes strength to actually do it.
my family has been awesome at helping me in those moments.
taking Eden for an hour or two, so I can take a shower.
a nap. a walk. or just to sit in my room. alone.
a couple weeks ago, Ryan had flowers and a book in our room with strict instructions that I was to stay in that room and he would watch Eden until she needed to eat. I got four hours of relaxing and a much needed nap.
that spoke to me.
while it was sweet and thoughtful of him, it made me realize that he saw a need.
a need that I didn't recognize. that I was afraid to admit I needed space.
that I needed alone time.
I don't do well with alone. Ask any of my family.
We are known for our frequent bathroom talks, to bombard eachother while someone is taking a shower.
(most of the time it's me coming in!)
I felt guilty that I needed space from Eden.
that it somehow made me a bad mom.
A bad person.
And that's when it hit me. Sitting in our room alone...
Other mama's warned me, but I didn't believe them.
"take time for you" they said.
How could I not want to have Eden with me all the time?
Who doesn't want to be around there child 24/7?
Well, it's true. You need time for you.
How can you take care of everyone else if you neglect yourself?
I stay at home. I still exclusively nurse Eden. I run our family.
I take care of a little human! That takes a lot more out of you than you think.
Its like your bank account:
if I'm not putting money in, I'm going to eventually run out... Right? Same concept.
so i encourage you. take time for you.
whether that's an uninterrupted shower.
reading a book. a cup of tea, or hot chocolate this season.
a nap. a walk by yourself...
invest in you.
trust me... everyone will thank you for it!
It hits hard and fast. You feel like your tossed and turned and then slammed into a brick wall only to be run over by a train.
Yes. Life is hard.
When these moments hit me,
I tend to get overwhelmed and irritable.
say things I don't mean.
Lately I've been trying to be more aware of how I respond.
to the things I have no control over.
because if I'm honest... The only thing I can control is how I react.
Most of the time when I ignore how I am feeling, things blow up.
I'm working on getting better at realizing when I'm stressed and need a time-out.
I used to think that made me weak.
that it showed I couldn't cope.
that i can't handle life.
But that's where I was wrong.
It takes strength to admit you need a time-out.
a break. it takes strength to actually do it.
my family has been awesome at helping me in those moments.
taking Eden for an hour or two, so I can take a shower.
a nap. a walk. or just to sit in my room. alone.
a couple weeks ago, Ryan had flowers and a book in our room with strict instructions that I was to stay in that room and he would watch Eden until she needed to eat. I got four hours of relaxing and a much needed nap.
that spoke to me.
while it was sweet and thoughtful of him, it made me realize that he saw a need.
a need that I didn't recognize. that I was afraid to admit I needed space.
that I needed alone time.
I don't do well with alone. Ask any of my family.
We are known for our frequent bathroom talks, to bombard eachother while someone is taking a shower.
(most of the time it's me coming in!)
I felt guilty that I needed space from Eden.
that it somehow made me a bad mom.
A bad person.
And that's when it hit me. Sitting in our room alone...
Other mama's warned me, but I didn't believe them.
"take time for you" they said.
How could I not want to have Eden with me all the time?
Who doesn't want to be around there child 24/7?
Well, it's true. You need time for you.
How can you take care of everyone else if you neglect yourself?
I stay at home. I still exclusively nurse Eden. I run our family.
I take care of a little human! That takes a lot more out of you than you think.
Its like your bank account:
if I'm not putting money in, I'm going to eventually run out... Right? Same concept.
so i encourage you. take time for you.
whether that's an uninterrupted shower.
reading a book. a cup of tea, or hot chocolate this season.
a nap. a walk by yourself...
invest in you.
trust me... everyone will thank you for it!
xoxo,
kate